It has been 5 months since we said yes in front of God (online) in the heat of the ECQ. Literally the day before, my husband was sweating and stressing about how he would ask permission from my dad. And when the day came, it felt like a big FINALLY! THANK YOU LORD! along with speeches and buckets of happy tears from our families. That same day, we swiftly moved out of our parents’ homes. Our first home had been waiting for us, a week delayed as our March 22 church wedding got moved to a March 27 online wedding. We were over the moon. God made it happen. We made it happen.
During our first few months, we were together 24/7 — the best honeymoon one could ask for. After the lockdown was lifted, he started going back to his office, and I missed him each time! I was looking forward to seeing him come home and was always annoyed I couldn’t hug him because he had to shower first. Perhaps, this is the bliss of being newly married. But I really do think our forever will go on this way.
Curious friends have asked me, “How do you know when you’ve found the one?”
The cliche answer was always, “you just know”. And it’s true.
When your heart is peaceful, when your heart is happy, when your heart is calm, you just know. There is really nothing else to say about it but that you just do.
And when it’s not the one, “you just know” too. Often, people choose to blind themselves of the truth even if their gut already tells them so, all for different reasons.
But this one quote a friend said to me stood out for me the most. And it has carved my main definition of what true love is.
She said, “You are who you marry” or that you are who you choose to be with.
And it was overwhelming to hear that because I think of my husband so highly. Absolutely no flaws, an angel of a husband really. And how can I not think that when every time I turn into a monster, he still finds it CUTE?!? My husband has the biggest heart. And to hear that he is also Me was beyond words.
This is how I have come to understand with 2020 clarity what true love is. Aside from feeling I am at my most peaceful with him, he is ultimately, a reflection of the best parts of me.
All the broken relationships we had prior finding each other, simply reflected different sides of us — sides that weren’t always good.
When I told this to my husband, he was in awe of the realization. It goes for us, and applies to all the other relationships.
This is how we know we have found the one in each other. This is how we know it’s true love. We are each other’s best selves. We are each other’s mirror. And we chose to marry each other.
It is a feeling and a choice we both made to journey our lives together. And it’s the greatest decision we have ever made.
To 5 blissful months, and forever to go.
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